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Peace is a possible dream, if…..

People are differentiable into various categories, which means, unity for peace and tranquility requires interaction. Not just any interaction,
it requires honest and open-minded interactions.

One way to achieve it is through travel. Travel as often as you can. It really opens up your mind to accepting differences. Instead of finding faults, you encourage your mind to find similarities. You travel to a new place, you sense the difference of life lived by you versus the locals in that place. It brings to us fresh understanding that beyond the walls of the house we live in, beyond the conversations with our family/friends, and beyond the miseries/pains that we experience, there is another world that visibly looks like ours yet responds to similar situations differently. You open your heart and mind to new people, which resonates optimism. (https://www.smallerearth.com/uk/blog/9-reasons-why-you-should-travel-the-world/)

Another way is to stay curious. Curiosity is the key to knowledge and knowledge helps you evolve towards betterment. Curiosity is my strong character trait. I’m definitely not much of a traveler but I’m curious about the world. It helps me read, understand and learn lessons of life that keep me grounded. A curious mind’s quest takes you through deep understanding of all kinds of emotions: defeat or success, hatred or love, betrayal or unity; if you start questioning your surroundings, actions and life members. For example, if I receive a rude reply for a nice gesture I did to someone, I debate it in my mind rather than express it upfront. A debate keeping both myself and that person’s possible views helps me not get offended, and possibly understand the person better. I take offense (Newton’s third law is unavoidable), but a curious mind helps me resolve conflict as I try to justify the action of the person, so reaction automatically changes.

Third way to bring peace and tranquility is by giving up ego. Having a ‘I am not wrong’ attitude or keeping yourself boxed in traditional belief system is the biggest hindrance to displaying rectitude in the world. However, if that is the choice of someone, Newton’s third law, should still work on such narrow minds. They must be avoided at all costs. It is still debatable as to whether to leave them to realize it by themselves or make them realize it when possible. I choose my battles, that is, I only try to make those realize who matter to me. Others get their fair chance of giving up the unnecessary attitude, if I still find them rude because they have ‘presumed’ wrong intentions in my action, I become indifferent. I am still evolving and I am hoping to discover a better way to handle people with stubborn ego.

Alas, what matters is how much you ameliorate yourself in a lifetime. Peace will find its way out – before or after a war.

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Collateral beauty

No this is not a movie review. This is just another blog but something that I firmly believe in!

The collateral beauty that we all carry is ‘Emotions’. We all carry various degrees of various emotions. How we figure our limits of expressing each one of them to one another, how we learn to change ourselves through them, is our purpose of life.

Change is the only thing unchangeable. Change and time walk side-by-side. You can’t stand and stay at one point carrying same emotions every time because time changes and it won’t wait for you. Get to pace with time, learn to change with time, learn to change at the moment in time. Now, I don’t tell you to change completely. Change towards betterment. Time does change, and can’t be controlled, but what you can control is ‘WHAT’ the change should look like? Change for goodness, change to spread goodness. That’s what we all are here for!

I started off with emotions but talked more about change and time, don’t think I am digressing. Emotions play the most important role in changing You. Don’t hold on to emotions that depress you, that hold you back from changing and walking in pace with time. Learn to get rid of emotions that keep you stagnant. Anger, ego, stubbornness, strictness, jealousy, competition, etc. are few emotions that everyone needs to let go.

That’s what brings us together. The collateral beauty is that ‘we are all at different stages of learning to get rid of emotions that hold us back’. We are here to share them, help ourselves get better with time and realize those emotions aren’t worth holding to. We combined with our endless emotions make life better every day.

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Humanity or being humane

In my first blog post, I want to share my thoughts about humanity. Like Mahatma Gandhi said we really can not stop having faith in humanity. Humanity is the totality of kindness that is exhibited by humans collectively.

There are various categories of humans. Some are benevolent. They understand the pain of other humans easily and are keen to help immediately. Some are semi-benevolent. They hear, console, understand the pain of other humans, and they can only respond not help. Then comes the category of semi-selfish, this is the most commonly found humanity. They have selective hearing and selective understanding of pains of other humans. They help when they are sure they can get help back. They further classify other humans as family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers. Their kindness and understanding are completely directed towards family and to some extent to their friends. But acquaintances and strangers are gossips or news for them – never someone to be considered for the human side of them. Finally, we have very few selfish humanity, who are devilish and ignorant of any pain or suffering of other humans.

Humanity has various colors. We rarely have a Hitler or a Mother Teresa. Most of us are infamous because we are all semi-selfish. If I cry and share the pain of another human, I also bitch and abuse another person. It’s not just me, it’s nearly all of us. There are so many of us, that collectively we have defined ‘being humane’ as a choice and not a compulsion for our race.

I try to rectify my mistakes and move from semi-selfish to benevolent every day. Are you trying?

Blog by a semi-humane!